i've had a pretty fun and interesting week in korea. :)
this weekend i went to an island, bijindo, for my birthday. before jen and i went, i asked around for a LOT of different things: a mat for sitting, cooler, grill, firewood, etc. you would not believe how expensive the coolers are in this country. for some reason, rubbermaid coolers are shipped to korea and sold. what? it seemed like everything that we would need was extraordinarily expensive. so, we brought it up to our korean teacher, eun jeong, and she was so helpful. haha.
i've read a lot about how helpful koreans are and how much they like to 'mother' their friends and family. (i have witnessed a lot of koreans helping out but not to the extent of eun jeong.) anyways, we've known her for a while now and she was more than thrilled to give us a bunch of stuff for camping. she gave us a cooler, mat, cans of tuna... lol. she tried to get their range working but we think maybe water got into it. she called some korean who told her when our ferry would be leaving and asked for times and prices. then, after we left, she texted jen to let her know where we could buy ice and what the korean word for ice is. all i can say is that if it hadn't been for eun jeong and todd (her husband) we would have had to spend a lot more money. it was really nice to finally feel like we have a good korean friend. she talks to us like we've known her forever and goes out of her way to be the 'cool aunt' (korean style).
i've found it's pretty difficult to make serious korean friends. their cultural norm for relationships is so different to ours that it's hard to break through. not only that, i don't speak korean. koreans really don't have friendships with people who are different ages and statuses from them. it has a lot to do with saving face and not making others feel uncomfortable because they aren't at the same level as you. it's hard to understand from the outside but the longer i'm here, the more obvious the differences are. don't get me wrong, the koreans i am friends with are great people and, like eun jeong; helpful, loyal people.
i think my point is this: i really appreciate that in american culture you can have relationships with everyone, regardless of age and status. i mean, i have a wide range of friends and i'd like to keep it that way. i can't imagine not having this wide range because of the things that we can all learn from each other and the different stories we all have. it almost reminds me of being in a constant high school state. in high school, you really do hang out with the same age group all of the time. let's recall how well that went... lol.
anyways, maybe it sounds silly, but i'm happy for all the ages of friends i have. :)
back to the camping trip:
so, i really wanted to have a campfire on the beach. like, real bad. obviously, we don't really get to do that in erie and i wanted to make it happen. so, i asked my boss where i could by some firewood. at first, she looked at me like i was out of my mind. i said, 'i want to have a campfire and i need to know where to buy the wood to do that. you know, you put the wood in and then you can sit around and have a campfire.'
her response: you could buy some ook.
me: what?
kris: ook.
me: what is ook?
kris: wood. but i think ook is very expensive.
me: do you mean oak?
kris: oh, yee, yee, oak. you should buy that.
me: um, i don't think you should by oak for a campfire.
kris: yes, i know, it is very expensive.
me: ok, well do you know where i could buy some other wood?
kris: i think the president (the boss of our company) cut some old tables and desks apart last year.
me: oh, alright. well, maybe we could get some from him? (trying desperately not to laugh)
kris: (laughing) maybe you can have the man build the fire for you.
me: um, what man?
kris: you know, the fire man.
me: what.
kris: yes, this man builds the fire and you pay him. then, we sit and watch the fire.
me: um, where should i find this fire man?
kris: i don't know.
needless to say, there was no campfire for the camping.
so, we went to bijindo. we rode a bus to tongyeong where we were told to get a taxi to the ferry. eun jeong told us that there were two ferry terminals, one that would take us on the island and one that would do a tour around the island. we figured our taxi driver would be able to figure out that we wanted to stay on the island considering the massive packs we were carrying... wrong. so, we get in the taxi and this guy is a maniac. typical korean driving: aka swerving, veering, hitting the brakes every five seconds, chatting on the phone. however, he was really nice. lol. so, he drops us off at the wrong terminal but we don't know this. we get to the ticket booth and the man tells us we're at the wrong place and we have to get to the other terminal. meanwhile, it's 10:40 and we have to catch the 11:00 ferry. no big deal. so, we wait around for a taxi, and wait, and wait, and wait. omg. a taxi FINALLY comes and the guy that told us we were at the wrong terminal talks to the taxi driver. all i hear is 'bali' which means fast. i don't know how he did it, but we made it to the ferry with time to spare. yea, korean drivers! haha.
we get on the ferry and there are rooms where you can sit with your stuff and lay on the floor. this would never be allowed in the u.s.! i love it. haha. so, we are riding and we here the captain say 'bijindo'. we try to get out but the guy won't let us leave... we're not sure why, so we just go sit back down. we get to the next stop about 10 minutes later and the captain says 'bijindo'. so, we get up and try to leave. the guy won't let us. we're frantically trying to explain that we need to get out while the guy is screaming 'TICKET!' but we're not sure why because we already gave a different guy our tickets. so, there's a lot of korean screaming and a lot of english screaming and a lot of jen and i trying to talk to this guy calmly (in both languages)... all of this is happening, while the ferry is pulling away from the dock. THEN, this other guy figures out what we want and starts screaming at guy #1. the ferry turns around and we get off of the boat. i just smile and say 'oh, korea'. hahaha. it really was very amusing.
we set up our tent quite a way from the sign that says 'no camping' and have a lovely time. we pretty much had the island to ourselves. we only saw one group of koreans. they were on the beach for an hour or so and then disappeared. it was so awesome. unfortunately, i don't have any pictures because my camera's lense is broken. so, you will just have to imagine a tent on a beach on an island where you can see other little islands and mountains in the mist. yea, like i said, friggin' AWESOME.
my birthday weekend finished up with us returning to daegu, getting ready to go out, and heading to maya. maya is a little indian restaurant owned by the cutest korean/nepalese couple. love them. food was delicious. we headed to sugar joe's to grab a drink because a few people in the group hadn't been there and then we made our way downtown. we grabbed a bag drink and while we were standing around, a friend came over and asked where we were going to watch the korean world cup game. we didn't know so he told us about (get ready) a church that was serving free beers and playing the world cup. LOVE IT. we went across the street and watched korea get hammered while we got hammered. awesome. haha. it was sad to see korea lose but nice that those church people gave us those beers.
we danced and a had a lovely time afterwards. the ending was sad because the u.s. lost their game but i was happy to ride home on the subway instead of paying $10 for a taxi. haha.
in conclusion, my birthday was very korean and very successful. :)
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